“Why do we need to work on our relationship? Everything’s fine”.

As a Love, Sex & Relationship Coach I’ve noticed a common perspective that people only need to “work” on their relationship if there is something wrong with it.

It’s understandable that...

When we meet the edges of our growth and move beyond them is when we feel most deeply connected with life.

It requires our full presence to meet our edge of growth and lean into it. It requires courage to move just beyond the known into the possibility of the unknown.

Right at this edge between...

When conflict - big or small - happens in a relationship, it is tempting to want to move past it quickly.

You might withdraw from the interaction, you might be dismissive of your partner, or otherwise avoid the conversation. You may feel that there is something unresolved, but think to yourself...

Sweet Spot Sex is about more than pleasure and more than connecting more deeply with your partner.

These are both important and beautiful things, but what makes Sweet Spot Sex special is the transformational, expansive, and even spiritual experience that is possible.

I’m talking about the...

While there are many paths to self-actualization, I have found sex and relationship to be particularly powerful.

In the intimate relationship, if you are playing full out and you truly long to access the deepest depths of love, there is no hiding.

It requires you to show up with all parts of...

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” 

- Aristotle

We are what we repeatedly do.

Our identity is shaped by our actions.

Our actions are shaped by our habits.

My question for you today is, how are your habits being shaped?

Are they...

"Find the sweetness in your own heart, then you may find the sweetness in every heart."

- Rumi

What is true intimacy?

From my perspective, true intimacy is letting down the guards around your heart and allowing yourself to be fully seen, and letting go of your preconceptions in order to...

One of the biggest obstacles to intimacy is expectation.

It is natural to develop expectations about they way sex should be. How you should perform, what is acceptable and what is not, what pleasure looks and sounds like, how your partner should respond…

It is easy to get caught up in the...

The way we naturally express our love may not be the way our partner naturally receives it.

For example, one partner - we'll call them Rey - may be cleaning up the kitchen every evening as a way to express their love and caring to their partner, Cee.

However, if Cee's natural way to experience...

In the last post we talked about learning to love what is - accepting reality as it is, rather than resisting it and experiencing the suffering that comes along with that resistance.

This practice of accepting reality has been transformative in our lives, and life became even more sweet when we...